How To Let Someone Go For Good
Sometimes, the people whom you’d like them to be part of your story, are certainly only supposed to be a chapter of the story.
People are not always going to stay in your life, that’s what you have to understand in the fast place. But what if you are so attached that person? What if you don’t want to lose them?
Well, to be honest. You can not keep people in your life if they don’t want to be part of it. That’s the sad reality of life.
You can’t force people to be in your life. It comes a point in life where you just have to let go.
If it’s toxic, if you are not respected, if it’s only getting worse, if it’s emotionally draining, if it has any negative impact in your life. The wisest thing you can do is let them go. For the sake of your well-being and self respect.
If it’s hard for you to let someone go, here are a few ways that should help you do just that.
1: Settle Everything Fast
Don’t just walk out of their life without actually settling things. You are trying to let go of this person completely, so you are not supposed to walk out having unfinished business.
Talk everything through if that’s possible and ensure everything is clear before you let it go.
You need to be strong during this period because you can easily get carried away. It’s gonna break your heart, but it’s gonna be okay afterwards. Make sure to make the best decision in your life, and value yourself more.
2: Cut Off Any Communication With Them
The next big thing to do to let someone go completely is to cut of any communication with them. No texts, no calls, no nothing.
Chatting or talking to this person will mess up your decisions to let them go. If they happen to text or call you randomly. Just assume their calls or text, better yet, you should block their number.
This is going to be the toughest moment of your life. But keep your head up, because you are doing it for you. A wise man once said, if a person truly loves you, they will never put themselves in a position to lose you.
So. if a person has deliberately put themself in a position to lose you, be smart enough to let them go completely.
3: Give Your Feelings Time
Your heart just went through a tough time, give it time to heal.
You will not just completely forget about a person the next morning you wake up after letting them go.
Your feelings will need time to get over it, you may always wake up thinking about them, but one day you will wake up only to realize that you don’t miss them anymore.
There is no remedy for the heart, it’s going to hurt for a while, but one day, it won’t even matter again.
4: Love Yourself
When you love yourself, nothing should come even close to the love you have for yourself. Actually, it’s going to be easier for someone to love you if you already love yourself that much
Value yourself enough and never put yourself in a position where you feel like you don’t have any control over your life. Put yourself first, everything else will fall through.
Focus on bettering your self, go to the gym, stay fit, eat healthy, work on your dreams, achieve your goals, hang out with friends and family and basically enjoy your life. It’s not the end of the world, it’s just that you met the wrong person thinking their the right one, it’s OK, it happens, you are not the first one to go through this and neither will you be the last one.
Self-love is what you need.
5: No Social Media Connection
For you to be able to let someone go completely, you need to avoid following them on any social media platforms, no following up on their Instagram posts, no liking their Facebook pictures, no following them on Twitter.
Try your best to avoid seeing them on social media. Any memories or pictures you have on your social media pages should be deleted, it’s painful but it’s the right thing to do, when letting go of someone completely is concerned.
At this point, you need to move on with your life, do NOT spy on that person online, or stock them on Instagram.
6: Avoid Fantasizing About Them
One problem that comes with letting someone go is fantasizing about them.
That will be a big problem if you entertain it. You should always avoid fantasizing about the person and focus on more important things in your life.
Now, other than that, you should also stop talking about this person with your friends. Well because according to psychology, you are most likely going to develop stronger feelings for someone if they are always what you talk about. Your brain will get used to them and letting them go will be a greater problem.
Get rid of all the memories you have with each other, from the photos in your gallery, pictures on the wall and the memories in your mind. Try your best to forget about this person completely, by getting rid of any memories you have of them.
7: Are You Sure You Want To Lose This Person
Before anything, you need to ask yourself if you are really sure you want to lose this person completely. Are you willing to spend the rest of your life as if they never existed?.
You NEED to make the right decision for yourself before you consider letting someone go. Unfortunately I can not help you out with that. You will need to make that decision yourself, if you are not sure, then take some time and think about the decision you are about to make.
One thing to note is that you should not lose people in your life just because you are mad at them, if it’s something you know at the back of your mind, that you can actually fix. Please do.
Some people are rare to find, if you lose them, then that’s it.
8: Move On
Now the only thing left for you to do is to move on.
It’s time for a fresh start, completely new life. Now that you have decided to let go of this person, there’s no need of really thinking about it ever again.
Better yourself daily, chase your wildest dreams, and become the best version of yourself. Take advantage of this time to focus on yourself one hundred percent. .
Moving on is not as hard, it only depends on how you treat it. Life happens and all we can do is deal with it. You will thank yourself for this courage five months from now.
Concludeding on… How To Let Someone Go For Good
Letting go is one the toughest things to do in life, but you will NOT know how STRONG you are, until being strong is your only choice.